Do you cut your mind off from your body?

Do you know how your body copes when you are stressed?

Can you cut off your mind from your body?

Can you cut off your mind from your body?

What happens to your body when you’re stressed?

I used to be guilty of separating my mind from my body ignoring everything and “getting on with it” to the detriment of my physical wellbeing.

I would literally cut my head off from my body. It’s easy really, it’s like putting your mind into a box. Shutting your self away. Do you know what I mean? Best of all it means I would Ignore any physical warning signals…

Trouble is if you continue to do this it can have a habit of backfiring, especially if you’re sick (see footnote at the end of this blog)

At the very least it will mean you’ll not have enough mental and emotional coping mechanisms when life gets tough. And it can mean you’ll experience aches and pains which eventually become chronic - back pain, stomach problems, head pain, and digestive issues leading to more serious illness. Of course, they are just the beginning. Believe me I know, I learned the hard way. But it doesn’t have to be for you.

All is not lost. You can easily integrate your body with mind benefitting from new and different ways of living life well even when life is tough.

Can you imagine what your body would say to you if you could hear it?

Here’s a typical letter from body to mind. It’s a synthesis of notes I’ve made from clients including my own’ body messages.’ Rest assured (and it’s not crazy I promise you) body can help you understand the impact on your physical wellbeing advising you a better way of managing life. Best of all you’ll be getting a tailor made diagnosis perfect for you!


I’m tired. You don’t list to me enough. Even though you practise yoga, you run, you work out.

You never listen.

OK you do need mindfulness, you do need nature, you need to listen and sit and just be but that’s not good enough for me.

I took away your taste buds for you to listen

I suffered hip replacement, hysterectomy, colon cancer for you to listen.

You had it all

And thyroid and ulcer

Here’s what I want:


  • I want to run, I want to laugh. Be joyful and happy

  • It’s YOU. You who need to grieve. You who are stressed always running ahead of yourself. Always fixing. always fighting. You need to LET GO

  • I cannot keep up. I’m too tired.

  • YOU DON’T realise that I too have a brain. I’m strong. Look up Solar Plexus it’s the second brain.

  • You have a Stradivarius violin as a body and you don’t know how to play me. You are without a valuable string. Without me you aren’t in harmony. I bring you - as your body - I bring you mellow and joyful tones.

LISTEN to me. I know what I, therefore WE need.

  • Explore, discover and write and paint

  • Be free to do all of the above

  • Learn to meditate. Write and draw to express to feel to share…

  • Be curious. Be lively. Be easy fun and flexible. BE HAPPY PLAY Be spontaneous

  • I respond to nature to light and trees. You know that now. I am a flower I don’t need much ‘physical food’ and I do need the correctly balanced nutrients for me. SO LISTEN TO ME

Blueberries peanut butter chia seeds molasses what a breakfast! You’ll always know what’s right for me to eat when you listen to me because my energy level improve in minutes.

You must stop when I have fulfilment. Otherwise the energy produced from the food will need to be used to digest an overfull stomach which means your wellbeing and mental strength is depleted. See? Listen to me.

You know that more food to fill the stomach will never make you happy. Never defeat loneliness or dispel grief.

Together listening to me we will continually be in joyous harmony.

We, yes, WE are now in harmonious. We are as ONE

We are joyful together.

Playful open to the flow. In the zone.

We begin afresh from a strong foundation.

TOGETHER we move forward into the unknown . Yet it isn’t unknown. We process step by step. You will never get ahead of yourself. I promise for I am slower than your quick mind. I am your engine. i function on light, in nature. I have to be in harmony. I am of this earth. I am the vehicle for you on this earth. I need time and to process shock trauma anxiety. I react to people to environment to sound and to light.

I respond to light we all respond to light

I don’t need more physical food

You do need to listen to what I need

You’ll therefore experience greater energy and assistance from me

Solve your own Puzzle!

Solve your own Puzzle!


Begin with experiencing a fundamental step below first.

As you deepen your understanding allow body (by listening to it) to lead you to choosing any of the other steps. A measure will be how the relationship with your mind and your body deepens.

Good luck and enjoy! Do message or email me. Love to hear how you are getttng on with yourself. Remember it’s your life and your choice. Solve your own puzzle because you are worth it!


Step One

  1. Write to your body. Begin by sitting in a room or a space out in nature. When you are comfortable, look around and choose another space to be where you can move your physical body. Move to that space. Sit, breathe, relax and feel your physical body. Say to yourself I am now physical I am in body. When ready, look toward where you were previously sitting and begin writing a letter from body (where you are sitting) to you in the empty chair/space.

  2. Continue writing until ‘bod’y runs out of words. When finished, leave the paper and move back to where you were sitting. Relax once more into yourself. As you look across to where body was sitting begin writing a reply on another piece of paper.

  3. By the end of the exercise (you can go backwards and forwards as many timesa s you want. Or, come back to the process another time) you’ll have experienced your first dialogue with your body and deepened your understanding of how your physical body relates toward you.

Choose from (in listening to body it will tell you what it needs)

  1. Massage particularly aromatherapy massage. Learn to self massage. Do you even know how you like to be touched? What smells do you love? What is your favourite food? What do you love to look at? What sounds are music to your ear? Bathe yourself in all the things that excite your senses. Give yourself the gift of sensuality. Be slow and feel…

  2. Reiki. Receive it and learn how to do it for yourself. A fundamental understanding of your body, your mind and emotions will inevitably follow.

  3. Go swimming, have frequent baths, walk slowly and lightly on the ground and especially without shoes. Feel the wet earth, grass beneath your feet. Benefit from experiencing nature in its eloquence.

  4. Stretch in the morning. Watch any animal the first thing they do is stretch as they awaken.

  5. Hot and then cold showers. Finish with cold water. Get the body and circulation moving.

  6.  Laugh. The heart is wide open, the belly is filled with oxygen, and it is a complete cleanse for the energetic system. Laughter softens us and allows us to be more present and receptive. See every cell in your body filled with smiles, joy and laughter.

  7. Consider all your relationships - they are wonderful teachers. Surrendering can be a gift! Instead of subscribing to the mental thought wave that I am “losing my freedom” by being in relationship, focus on gains; you’ll learn about yourself - habits, fears, and desires by being with someone. Accept we are wired to be connected with other people and other people serve as a mirror.

    The feminine aspect of relationship comes when two people pay attention to the relationship’s energy instead of rushing to label it. The feminine perspective gives us the yin, being, reflective skills a relationship needs to flourish. I recently overheard a couple on a first date talking about marriage and kids! Relationships have a frequency of their own, slowing down and tuning into that is a skill. We are often so in love with being in love we can only see our own dreams and desires, so our linear mind takes over wanting more and more, unable to stay in the (being) moment savouring the exquisiteness of two people together. No it wants to plan, organise, control and manage what happens next, often in line with dreams and desires you’ve harboured for years and years waiting just waiting for that ‘special someone to arrive.’

  8. We literally are what we eat. Body needs energy derived from food. Wholesome organic food. Listen to body. Experience when it is full and what it needs to have energy to use the mind or handle the physical load. Body’s nutritional needs change with the seasons and time of day. Your current level of harmony within your health and wellbeing plays a part in your nutritional needs. If its cold and damp and your health suffers don’t eat damp forming foods! Consider changing your routine, I promise your body will thank you. You’ll be playing your own Stradivarius violin.

  9. Alternate nostril breathing . This practice works directly with the right and left sides of the body and brain to cultivate harmony and mental clarity. It helps clear blocked energy streams in the body.

    Sit comfortably with a tall spine. Place your left hand on your lap, palm face up or face down. With your right hand, fold down your index and middle finger so they are gently touching the centre of your palm. Place your ring finger on your left nostril and softly close the nostril. Take a deep slow breath in through your right nostril. When the breath is full, then gently switch and release your left nostril and close off your right nostril with your thumb. Close your eyes. Take a long, slow exhale through your left nostril. When the lungs are empty, keep the hand as it is and take another deep breath in through your left nostril. When you reach the top, repeat by switching to exhale through your right. Inhale again through your right nostril, switch fingers, and exhale through your left. Repeat. Five minutes per day is all you need. When you become confident count eight as you hold a nostril, let go for eight and hold for eight.

  10. Learn how to enter into your body. Sit in physical pain. Learn how to relax, release and let go.

  11. Meditate click here

Why cutting your head from your body isn’t wise when you’re sick or grieving.

If you’re trying to recover, through sickness or bereavement, cutting your head from your body only prolongs your healing.

I tried to shut off my mind after a bereavement. It took me five years to cry and a depression which lasted many more years until I finally integrated mind and body.

Here’s a typical example: recovering from illness or bereavement has a rather similar cycle where although your mind might acknowledge the diagnosis or death, your feelings cannot whilst body is tired, or sleepless or cannot stop ‘being busy and agitated.’

It doesn’t stop there either, even though the mind understand the situation; tries to organise or fix things, feelings may experience overwhelm; tears and emotion flaring up at a drop of a hat not to mention peculiar and fleeting aches or pains in your body.

One step forward then a few steps backward.

A bigger step forward then nothing. Little steps maybe? A movement by movement.

And so it goes on. Until body, mind and emotion are integrated. Everything flowing one way again…

Time is a great healer. yet time itself presses buttons.

In our 24/7 full on digital world it helps to share, offload, understand your own swinging processes. It makes sense, doesn’t it, to know your own body/mind? To help you in future ups and downs.

Friends, loved ones are invaluable. Yet they too, have their lives to lead. They can experience overload when loved ones are going through challenges.

If you need signposts, want to understand how you can take back your personal power, move through the ups and downs, put together your own personal ‘sat nav’ mapping out a way forward that works for you, please know you aren’t on your own if you don’t want to be…

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"Everything is possible and nothing is impossible. You are only ever limited by your mind."

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Ann Tanmayi


How to Meditate: I'll handle tomorrow well if I stay in the Present

How to Meditate - I’ll handle tomorrow well if I stay in the present

How to Meditate - I’ll handle tomorrow well if I stay in the present

What is it like to be fully present?

"My perception, my understanding is greater. It's as though I can see round corners! There are many possibilities. I can see, I can absorb and I’m not overwhelmed. My mind is not busy, nor am I spaced out."

"My mind is still, like a clear pool. Perfectly crystal clear. I am fully present. Yes, it’s a gift to be in my present. I see that now. Everything is crystal clear. I can see all. Now I attend to my life so differently."

Essentially, I am talking about my Self. 'My real Self.' Devoid of all (chattering monkey) thoughts, the 'what ifs' and 'what else could I do?' and 'what else I need to do?'

I am talking about attending with one-pointed focus to the challenge in hand, in the present. Rather than living in the past (what haven't I done) or in the future (there's still so much to do).

I am attending to my present. And, yes, it might well be seen as a gift.

Contrary to what you might believe, we all have this gift. It just takes focus and commitment.

A One-point focussed mind: No Chattering Monkey Thoughts

"All thoughts of blame ( blaming someone or something else) are gone. I am in control. It is me. It is not about anyone else. I'm not pushing against any tide, any person and any system. I am not pre-empting problems ( the 'what if' syndrome) instead, I am attentive to all and everything in that specific moment. I slip through into another space. Another dimension. Yet I’m still functioning."

It took me a long long while before I could see the joke: that within the moment is my present. At that moment, I have everything. A cosmic gift!

So why can't I stay in my present? What is stopping me? Blocking me?

Ah ha! What is left is ME :-) My own stuff.

This can include some or all of the following: negative self-beliefs ( some of those I put there, some of them are from previous partners, experiences, jobs and childhood) and my own lingering fears and false beliefs, maybe  disappointment for unfulfilled dreams and expectation to reality, grief, anger…

Here's my experience: I found committing myself to me, giving myself the time and the space to move through my busy world into a space of stillness and learning to be 'in the moment' harrowing. I experienced it as challenging and frustrating too.

First it was harrowing because I couldn't do it and I didn't know how to begin. The thoughts (of which I believed I had no control) were enormous and overwhelming. They consumed me and my day and my behaviour toward others. And that was harrowing for me. I realised that to handle my thousands of thoughts I had to watch my emotions, my feelings. For often they would trigger thoughts and reactions.

Further into my quest to stay 'in the moment,' the challenges were fast and furious, often overwhelming. As I explored and practised, I found myself slipping into past patterns. Of course, it was great that I could see I was experiencing past patterns because

a) it meant I was observing myself

b) I was being honest with myself and

c) I could do something about it. I could ask myself "Do these past patterns serve me well now? And if not, I need to do something about them in order to move on." I was willing to move through my blocks. People who don't like change, please take note, look honestly at yourself and ask yourself whether not liking or not coping well with change is blocking you moving on in your life. This may well be your first 'pro-active' step to handling all of your tomorrows!

Often I would find myself even more overwhelmed than I was in the first place. I explain this now, by saying it is rather like a see-saw: there are days when one feels great, many small steps forward have been achieved. There are also days when nothing happens or, even worse, hundreds or even thousands of steps backwards are experienced. Eventually, the see-saw swinging reduces. It evens out, a plateau is reached. Calmness steps in. It is then one can appreciate stillness. And want to stay in it. In fact, to crave it. It is not frightening, it is loving, peaceful and so powerful, so very still and pregnant with potential.

I've talked about my journey to stay 'in the moment' as being harrowing and challenging. For me, there was frustration too. This is where although I'm on the path, would not want to be on any other path, and I can stay in the present some if not most of the time, I'm frustrated because I slip out of it! The frustration, I know, is there to tell me I need to go further, I haven't loosened enough of myself. I haven't freed up enough of the expectations I put on myself to just BE. And then, somehow it just happened...I lost the frustration. Instead, what do I now do? I smile. I'm not hard to myself anymore. I'm just me. And I don't have expectations of others. I've unlocked another door on my journey to come home to my Self. I simply laugh at myself. I can't begin to tell you how freeing that is! Yes, I continue to feel relaxed and move through the awareness that I've slipped from staying 'in the moment' and it is ok!

Remembering What You Have Forgotten

Please believe me when I say there is NO one way, one tool, one training that can ensure you will remain in the present.

Mindfulness is the current 'magical' tool. And will serve many very well. Yet staying in the moment requires all of our intelligences: we function on many levels through our mind, our body, our emotions, our intuition and our spiritual selves. We have five senses: sound, touch, taste, seeing and smell. All communicate information requiring us to absorb and integrate. In fact, a sound can transport us to another time, another place, as can a smell or a picture.

Paying attention and staying in the moment asks us to dissolve all. Asks us to detach, rather than block or hold onto thoughts, emotions, memories. Instead, to function with free flowing thoughts and mindful action.

The ability to:

  • relax

  • to ease tension in the body and the mind

  • to be able to step back, separate fact from emotion

  • learn to respond rather than react, are all part of the process of staying in the moment.

Just imagine what it could be like for you?

"It happens happens... up bubbles the original ah ha moment....a bubble of pure bliss....of joy.....the right action to take 'a deep knowing' .....the one angle I had forgotten to look at. All the while I am relaxed, without tension. I might be getting on with my day, or attending slowly and methodically with great attention to the small things in life. What is gradually happening, is that I'm experiencing the deep still crystal clear waters are sustaining me...continually sustaining me....connecting me to everything in this world: to you, to me and ineffable Source" '

"It makes living so much lighter. It makes work so much easier."

How does staying in the moment help me in my tomorrows?

Well, if it is not obvious by now... You'll be calm, clear and always resourceful. Might that help at work? Home? Generally, in your life?

OH and by the way, the added benefit that always comes from clearing out your thoughts and negativity is authenticity.

'When I loved my self enough I realised that only when I am feeling and acting lovingly did others respond lovingly.'

All is Possible and Nothing is Impossible


"Everything is possible and nothing is impossible. You are only ever limited by your mind."

Thanks for engaging with me in this podcast, you’re invited to Join My Community and Facebook Page where you'll have access to e-books, share and discuss finer points with like-minded and hearted others, download podcasts and receive my monthly (once a month only promise) email! OH, and p.s. when you join my community as a thank you for sharing your email, you'll receive a guide questionnaire designed to help you see how your own mind approaches  happiness, relationships, wellbeing and working life.

"We are all made of stars and carry eternity inside." Thich Nhat Hanh

Ann Tanmayi